To the Boys Who May One Day Date My Daughter - Video
I fucking hate this bullshit so much.
Its misogynistic, archaic asscrap.
YOUR DAUGHTER IS NOT YOUR PROPERTY.
WHO SHE DATES OR SLEEPS WITH IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. THINKING OTHERWISE IS INCREDIBLY CREEPY AND INVASIVE.
SHE HAS THE RIGHT TO MAKE HER OWN CHOICES AND MISTAKES.
YOU DON’T MAKE THE RULES. SHE IS NOT CATTLE. HER LOVE LIFE IS NOT YOUR CONTRACT. SHE MAKES THE RULES.
Not only are you advocating for a father to not care about his daughter, but you’re also misinterpreting the video horribly. He threatens the man that breaks his daughter’s heart. He threatens the man that hits her. That takes away her smile. He does not say she cannot love anyone, male or female, he says that they better love her. And if that’s not what a father is supposed to do, then I’ll be damned.
Maybe I’m wrong, I accept that, but please… please explain to me how fatherly love and care for his daughter is an archaic and misogynistic practice. Explain to me how allowing her to date who she loves, to do what she wants, and teaching her to not put up with abuse is wrong. I would love to hear it, she might not be his property, but he is her guardian, and guarding her happiness is no crime.
^^^^ ALL OF THIS ^^^^^
I feel like all the other poster did was read the top gif and decide to freak out without actually taking the time to watch the video itself and realize the full context.
These gifs bookend a really wonderful piece of poetry, but they are not the sum of the spoken word piece.
I absolutely love this video, and as someone who’s felt the fear when first introduced to a girl’s father, I can say for certain that this must be what every man thinks when his daughter brings home a boy. All suspicion drains away from him when he sees that he makes her daughter happy and makes her feel loved.
That is what the poem tries to say. Not that his daughter should never let a man get close to her… but that if he makes her anything but loved, he will be there and make sure that the lesson he had started will not be forgotten. The lesson of love and compassion. The lesson he had hoped someone else was worthy to take over.
Yeah! I especially love the fact that he also included ”to the girls who may date my daughter” at the end too. I’ve seen a lot of posts on tumblr recently about people shoving heteronormativity on babies or young children who couldn’t know what sexual orientation is yet and this man chose not to do that by adding this comment and I think it’s pretty neat.